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Permalink Reply by Kelly Davis on July 15, 2012 at 12:23am

Just live your life and fuck 'em if they don't like it.  I've worn the same basic style clothes since I was your age (I'm 43 now).  The style comes and goes...sometimes people say they love my clothes, sometimes they ask wtf I'm wearing.  The same goes for quite a few lifestyle choices of mine.  Instead of staying in my southern hometown and getting married young and popping out some kids, I started traveling and seeing as much of the country and world as I could. 

Fast-forward 20 years and now the people who used to make fun of me for wearing "grandma clothes" and giving me a hard time because I chose not to marry young and have kids are complementing my clothes and asking where to find them and lamenting that they didn't get a chance to travel before having kids and responsibilities.

March to your own beat, girl, whatever that may be.  It gets easier with practice.  :)   Good luck!

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Permalink Reply by cela hyatt on July 15, 2012 at 6:50am

The most important thing is to surround yourself with people who love and accept you, I know that this is particularly hard when the ones who are the most judgemental are the ones who should have unconditional love (like parents).  There seems to be a common thread of bad mother/daughter relationships in this discussion, I don't have a very good relationship with my mom either.  She is incredibely judgemental and thinks that she knows everything, she is no longer allowed to spend much alone time with my kids because she is so irresponsible, lets just say that I only made it to adulthood by the grace of god, because she wanted to be the "cool mom" so we didn't have any rules.  But now she tries to dictate my life, it would be funny if it wasn't so sad. She at one point told me that I was a bad mother and a bad influence on my children because I had blue hair at the time, wear colorful makeup and have tattoos! my response was "I feel that I am a positively influencing by teaching them that they can be true to themselves and that a woman is beautiful even though she doesn't conform to society's definition of beauty", she had no response.  It would be very hard to cut your mother out of your life and you obviously want to share the things that you are passionate about with her.  Try to talk to her and get to the root of the problem, I doubt it has anything to do with the clothes you are wearing.  Be patient and let her vent a little, unless she starts to get mean, dont put yourself through that.  If after talking to her about it, and telling her why you like the wear this type of clothes (maybe she doesn't get it and after explaining she can be more accepting) the realtionship will improve.  If she still is putting you down about it, then you know where you stand and can move on accordingly.  Good luck

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Permalink Reply by Kari Drummer on July 15, 2012 at 5:25pm

I ignore them. I know I look nice and if they want to be mean spirited I just brush them off. I have tons of other people telling me I look glamorous and I always feel good in my PUG dresses. Honey you look perfect so don't listen to her. I know it hurts, but her being mean is coming from something else in her life that is making her unhappy...Not you.

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Permalink Reply by Billie May on July 24, 2012 at 11:21am

I've had a lot of people not like how I dress or style my hair or makeup. But there ARE people who appreciate it out there! My boyfriend's best friend didn't like it at all and had a lot of comments to pass. One day he met up with me and my man at a car show, where I had just finished shooting. We ran into one of their friends who was SOO excited that I dress like a pinup, because "he has a huge thing for pinup girls" and he even told my boyriend he was jealous and asked if I had a friend for him. All in front of someone who has nothing but negative things to say about me. And its happened on a few occasions. People take notice of things that stand out. And in today's world, we ladies stand out.

I love the way I dress and at the end of the day, if someone thinks youre dressing over the top or silly, screw em! You should do what makes you happy. Life is too short. And as Marilyn Monroe once said "It's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring!"

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Permalink Reply by Cecilia McCormack on July 24, 2012 at 4:10pm

My mum thinks it's cool! However she does think it looks to fancy for everyday occassions! So sticking to day dresses and ballet flats - like Dita Von Teese on her off-days.

I'ld say just ignore your mum. She seems to be defensive for no reason - she probably doesn't get it, or is in someway jealous of you? You're more stylish? She may have some childhood securities?

But if it makes you happy (I assume so with the petticoat) just keep going. One day you'll be able to move out! It's a good idea to find people in your area, or convert a friend. Then you get support from that person - and it's more fun!

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Permalink Reply by Eve Faxton on July 25, 2012 at 7:17pm

I came across this difference of opinion a few years ago with my mother in law.  (My mom on the other hand loves vintage styles.)  It was when I watched a Bettie Page documentary with my mom-in-law and she commented how much she hated Bettie Page with a passion.  My jaw dropped since she could easily pull off the look and she was by no means conservative.  When she walked away with a scowl, I remembered that she grew up around these styles and she loved being a hippy flower child.  If there was another personal reason, she wasn't going to talk about it and I didn't bother pushing.  Maybe your mother came from a generation that wants nothing to do with what the PUG style represents to them.  Just a thought.

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